I am an Integrative Humanistic Counsellor (Gestalt, Person-Centred and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy). I trained with Dartmoor Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy and qualified in 2018.
My practice focuses on supporting clients to become more of who they have the potential to be, by finding themselves and their ‘essential resources’ again; client free will, self-discovery and self-determination are key.
Who I can support
I work with young people and adults, and have experience of helping people struggling with depression and anxiety, childhood emotional, physical and sexual abuse, PTSD, bereavement, anger, trauma, self-harm, relationship issues, domestic violence, bullying, low self-esteem, assertiveness difficulties, loneliness, suicidal ideation, drug and alcohol misuse.
More about my counselling practice
I have a creative, dynamic style; I use experiments and active interventions and Sand Tray in my work.
I believe that humans essentially seek to live a life that is positive, without pain, with truth and without distortion. However, I have found that ‘truth’ has a capacity to be distorted by the filters we create. This is due to a desire for painlessness, or a need for physical or psychological survival, but ones that can hide us from healthier, more positive perspectives.
I agree with Carl Rogers, that the person who feels accepted and understood, will drop false façades and move forward. But to accept oneself, one’s idiosyncrasies, one’s failures, one’s inadequacies is quite a journey and a path rarely chosen, because it is so very difficult.
M. Scott-Peck, in his seminal work, The Road Less Travelled, explains that, in his view, the capacity to find freedom from life’s difficulties is generated with discipline, with specific tools, including delaying of gratification, acceptance of responsibility and dedication to truth.
As I continue my own psychological journey, I appreciate the way to live a positive life, one without façade and distortion, is to be open to exploring, revealing and integrating my story, and my understanding of it; this takes discipline.
In my view, the therapeutic relationship is based on key principles: safety, boundary, trust, acceptance, and congruence; I can only reliably state this having fully experienced this myself.
Of the core conditions of the Person-Centred modality, congruence has become my most deftly exercised and sharpened tool; one that I experience as efficiently generating a trusting relationship.
In my work I notice; I notice what is happening within my client, via my emotional response to what is happening. I find that what my clients present, provides some clue as to what is underneath, and it is my job to feel it, and help clients feel it, and reveal it.
I am drawn to the words of Kahlil Gibran about children: “Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you, but not from you, and though they are with you, yet they belong not to you”.
As a teenager, and subsequently as a parent, I have been conscious of Gibran’s advice, yet, as a counsellor, there is an absolute need to embrace it, to constantly remind myself that I am in service of my clients, whose fledgling growth does not belong to me, though it comes through me.
My practice is located at:
8 Hanbury Buildings
My hourly rate for counselling is £40.
I have some concessionary spaces for people on a low income, so please do not allow your capacity to pay for counselling get in the way of contacting me; I’m always up for a conversation!